"All things you wish for can be manifested, you just have to be clear about what it is that you want". One of my favorite claims regarding the Law of Attraction. When it comes to having a boyfriend or manifesting love into your life, the principles of doing so are pretty much similar to the principles of when you want to manifest anything else in your life. You simply have to know it's coming to you and be very clear about your wishes.
I know from my own experience when I didn't specify all the details of my wishes, they came out in all shapes and forms. For example, in my early days, I wanted to manifest money.
I didn't specify the amount, where I'd get it from, or how it would come. 3 weeks later, I got a $50 gift check. It was nice, but it wasn't exactly what I pictured when I said I wanted to manifest money because I wanted my manifestation to be more oriented towards making a better lifestyle for myself – which with $50 isn't really that possible.
But let's get back to our topic: "How to manifest a boyfriend". As I've shown in my own example, you have to be really clear about what it is that you want. When I do my manifestations, I have a whole ritual of setting up my room in manifestation mode. What does that mean?
1. Clean your space
Whether you like to do your manifestations in your room, living room, or anywhere else in your house, the space where you'll do them should be clean and tidy. When you have a messy living space around you it represents chaos.
Do you know the feeling on a Saturday afternoon when you've done your cleaning, your place smells incredible and you feel light? Yup. You should feel the same way when you're doing your manifestations because it will help you achieve them. It doesn't matter if you don't see how messy your closet is, you'll definitely feel it.
2. Prepare your space
After a deep clean, you will literally see how light the energy of your place is, and at that moment, you are going to upgrade it with scents of your choice. Whatever scent is making you feel warm and fuzzy inside, that's a scent you'll use. My preferred scents are either tangerine or vanilla.
Tangerine reminds me of a cold winter evening, all wrapped up in a warm blanket and eating tangerines with my grandma in front of a tv. That was when I felt the happiest and now, every time I smell tangerines, it evokes those feelings of happiness and safety. Vanilla, on the other hand, gives me that warm, homey feel so whenever I feel like I need something comforting, I light up a vanilla-scented candle and it literally makes me feel at home.
Those peaceful and positive feelings are the ones you should be feeling while you're doing your manifestation because your mind has to be at ease when you're trying to achieve your dreams. This will ensure the best possible outcome because it will block limiting beliefs out of your head. Scents have an enormous impact on our mental state, so make sure you chose the ones that lift you up.
3. Prepare yourself
Whether it's taking a shower, rubbing all kinds of lotions on your skin, or just sitting on your carpet with a glass of wine, you should be in a state that's best for you.
I often say: "One shower takes away all of my problems", and that's because when I get out of my bathroom, all fresh and clean, my mind somehow becomes cleaner than my body. I don't know, water just does something to me. On that note, I advise you to do the same. If a shower is what calms your spirit, or if it's your favorite food – do it!
Prepare your mind for your manifestation. If you've had a busy day and it's been a bit stressful, wash it all down in a way you feel most fitted because you shouldn't start writing down your manifestations while the feeling of overwhelm is still lingering.
Those three points are my own, personal “ritual” before doing any manifestation technique because your energy field has to be clean before you can let in an energy that is yet to come. Let me explain. In manifestation, you have to FEEL what you want to achieve.
When talking about how to manifest a boyfriend, you literally have to feel what it's like to already be in a relationship. You have to feel the excitement of going on dates, you have to feel those butterflies when he sends you a cute good morning text.
In order to feel all of those things, you have to be free from any doubt, sadness, or loneliness you might feel at the moment. Cleaning your space, making it smell nice, and having a self-care evening will make you love your surroundings and yourself which will raise your vibration. Love attracts love and when you love yourself, you will easily attract a boyfriend.
Now, once you've "prepared the field" for manifesting your boyfriend, let's get to it. First, you must decide which manifestation technique you will use. My personal favorites are journaling and affirmations, backed up by visualization.
Light up a candle of your choice, sit in a comfortable position, take out your notebook and relax your breathing. Feel the notebook in your hands and feel the power it holds. This item will be the doorway to your manifestation and because of it, holds an enormous amount of energy. Once you've felt how it feels, open it up and grab a pen.
Before you start writing down your manifestation, close your eyes and feel how everything around you is peaceful. You've done your cleaning, you've lit a candle, your body is clean and soft and it makes you incredibly happy to be in this safe environment.
Everything smells so nice and you're so happy! Now, open your eyes and think about all of the reasons why you want to have a boyfriend. You are happy at the moment, you are content with yourself, and having a boyfriend would literally just be a plus to your current situation, right?
That's right. Having a boyfriend is NOT a NEED, but a WANT because you're okay with or without him. If you need him, you are coming from a desperate mindset and you'll never achieve your manifestation from that place.
Once we've settled the fact that you would like to have a boyfriend, but he's not a necessity, think about his physical features. What does he look like? What color are his eyes and how tall is he? Would you like for your boyfriend to be muscular, or do you prefer the softies? Personally, I'm a sucker for dad's bod.
Nothing beats a good old squishy belly hehe. Write down all the tiny little details of his physical appearance, but write it as if you already have this person next to you. How do you see him? Do you see those little freckles on his nose? Yup, write it all down. And while you're writing it down think about it. Imagine it in your head and see it as clear as day because you already have him so you know what he looks like.
Once you've described what he looks like, describe how he makes you feel. The sensations that you have when you see him, the happiness he brings you, and the feelings that he evokes in you. How does it feel to be with this person? What is it about his personality that you love so much? Describe in as many details as you can and feel it while you're writing it.
If you're writing in your gratitude journal, mention his features that you are so grateful for and mention how you're grateful for the fact that he makes you feel a certain way. If you're writing your affirmations, I'd suggest you write them through the scripting method. Write down your perfect scenario of this person and with this person as if you've already met them and they bring you so much joy. Feel the happiness and enthusiasm as you're describing it all down because it IS your reality.
After you’ve finished writing down everything about this person and how they make you feel, close the notebook and close your eyes. Stay for a little bit in this feeling of happiness and joy. Imagine how happy you are that you finally found your person! Be there for the next 5 minutes and then open your eyes, put away your notebook and say to yourself: “It’s done.”
In order for your manifestation to come to life, you'll have to try and stay in a positive mindset. Forget all about the writings and most certainly – do not expect it. If you're constantly looking and checking, your manifestation will be slowed down.
The most important thing is that you keep your vibration high and dismiss any negativity that might come to your mind. Do the things you love, try to be as positive as you can, and do your daily affirmations and I can guarantee you your person will come!