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How to Manifest Love

I remember, a few years back, I was thinking about what my perfect person would look like. What would their personality be like? What would their appearance be like?

At the time, I was in a long-term relationship, and it was far from what I’d pictured for myself, but I was already too far gone to even think about someone else. We started our relationship right after high school, and it was pretty much amazing up until a year or two into the relationship. Since I’ve had no experience, my perception of it was that this is what love is supposed to look like after the honeymoon phase is over.

Well…another year had gone by - and another one – and another one. Let’s just say things did not turn for the better, and I’ve matured enough to distinguish healthy from toxic. So, after realizing I was in a toxic relationship, I’ve somewhat daydreamed of what I wanted my relationship to look like.

What kind of a person I’d like by my side and the reality of my life did NOT match up to the picture I’d painted in my mind. Just to be clear, my imagination didn’t cook up some unrealistic idle of a person. I simply pictured my perfect partner to be affectionate, fun, outgoing, and caring. I remember waking up with the same thought over and over and over again and going to sleep in the same manner.

As I’ve previously said, I haven’t had the chance to experience that many relationships, and I was not the one to give up on something just because it wasn’t what I thought it would be. As I looked at other people and their relationships, my thought was - “The grass will always look greener on the other side because that’s what people want you to see.”

If they look happy on the outside, it doesn’t mean they are happy on the inside. There are lots of things that can go on in a relationship that people just don’t show in public. So maybe they are thinking what I’m thinking, and that’s just life? Nope. It wasn’t life. I was simply in a disrespectful relationship and too naïve to notice.

My knowledge of manifestation and the Law of Attraction was not that deep a few years ago. I knew why people said - “Be careful what you wish for,” because it happened to me on occasion, but I’d just write it off as good luck.

As I got older and somewhat wiser, I started researching, reading, and filling myself with knowledge about manifestation, and my first thought was - “Let me apply it in my own life to create the perfect relationship.”. Let’s just say – it did not go as planned.

How to Manifest Love by Writing It Down

You have a few ways to go about when manifesting by writing. The first technique I used was the 369 technique. It’s a simple way to continuously go towards your goal by writing your desire 3 times in the morning, 6 times in the afternoon, and 9 times in the evening and doing so for the course of 21 days.

If your manifestation comes in the midst of those 21 days, that’s great! But if it doesn’t, don’t give up. It usually comes after you’ve finished the cycle and forgotten all about it. Now, let’s get back to my story so I can help you not make the mistakes that I did. Why did I say it did not go as planned? When you’re writing down your manifestation, you have to be careful to get rid of all the doubts you might have.

While I was doing the 369 method, my vibration was pretty low. Due to all of the issues my relationship had, I was pretty depressed, and I wasn’t writing my manifestations from a state of joy but rather from a state of despair. Because of that same despair, my manifestation did not actualize. You have to be positive. You have to feel the joy of your manifestation while writing it down as if it has already happened. That way, you will manifest love faster than you’ve ever imagined.

Another technique is Scripting. Scripting is a way to manifest your desires by simply creating a scenario on paper. Imagine the love that you want. What does it feel like? What does it look like? How do you feel when you receive that amazing love you desire? Now, write it all down to the smallest detail, like you’re writing a book of the love that you already have. It is extremely important to write your scenario in the present tense because it will give you a sensation of your manifestation already being your reality. Once you’ve written your scenario down, put it away, forget about it, and do not expect it. In a short period of time, you’ll see your manifestation unfolding.

My personal favorite is Gratitude Journaling. The Law of Attraction has a way of surprising you, to say the least. Remember when I said that I woke up and went to bed with the same thought over and over again? Well…I like to believe that my gratitude journaling was the pinpoint on top of my constant thoughts for that manifestation to happen. As you may have already guessed, my last relationship did not make it.

After all the manifestation techniques and all the meditations, nothing worked. Why, you might ask? Because I was writing it while severely depressed, just hoping for a miracle. It doesn’t work like that, and I’m glad it didn’t work out for me. On the other hand, while I was daydreaming of my perfect person, I was hopeful, calm, and happy. Fast forward to two years ago when I met my fiance.

I was gifted a gratitude journal by a friend and honestly forgot I had it up until the night when I met the love of my life. I was cleaning my room in the morning when I found the journal in my drawer and thought to myself - “Huh! I should write down what I’m grateful for.” Keep in mind – at the time, I did not have anything from the stuff I wrote down. I was single and did not speak to anyone, just minding my own business, but I was hopeful of eventually finding a person that would be exactly like the picture I’d painted in my mind.

So, I wrote down how grateful I am for the person that came into my life; it is exactly like I have always dreamed of them being. Returned it back in my drawer and started getting ready for work. Came home from work and didn’t have any plans for the evening until my friend spontaneously called me to come by her workplace for a coffee.

I hesitated because I didn’t honestly feel like going, but I went, and right there and then, I met my fiance. He is the exact representation of my every thought. It took my gratitude journal a full course of 12 hours to bring me the person of my dreams.

How to Manifest Love From a Specific Person

In my own experience, I did not specify the exact person I wanted to manifest love with because, at the time, I didn’t know my fiance, and I had zero interest in anyone else, but you can apply the same techniques with the person you’d like to manifest. By doing your manifestation, instead of focusing on general, you can put your focus on that one person you have in mind. Whether it’s by meditation or writing, just be sure to write their name into your manifestation.

If you decide to go with scripting, you can create a scenario regarding your person and place your focus on what type of love you’d like to manifest by describing it and referring to them by their name. For example: “I am so happy that Jack invited me to go on a trip with him. This trip brought us together, and we are so madly in love with each other.”. Or if you’d like to do gratitude journaling, you can write down: “I am so grateful for the love that Jack has offered me.”

Whether you’re manifesting love from a specific person or with a specific person, you can adjust the sentences accordingly. Moreover, if you’ve just been daydreaming about a person and you’d want nothing more than for them to reciprocate your feelings, you can apply the same techniques in terms of manifesting someone to fall in love with you.

Create a scenario where you bump into the person you’re thinking about on the street, and they casually ask you out for a coffee. There are no limits to your story; you just have to believe in it and feel the joy while you’re writing it.

How to Manifest Self-Love

We all need a little confidence boost from time to time, but when you struggle with self-love, it is crucial to boost your own confidence on a daily basis.

Techniques for self-love are similar to those when manifesting someone else to love you, but different in a way that you don’t write your affirmations on a piece of paper and then forget all about them, but rather write them down and read them all over again – every day. You can write down your affirmations one by one on sticky paper and place them on your mirror. Every morning when you wake up, you’ll remind yourself of all the things you love about YOU.

Another technique that is really helpful, but can sound a bit odd, is to stand in front of a mirror and, for 10 minutes a day, talk to yourself. Tell yourself all the things you love about yourself and what makes you special. This way, you’re giving and receiving your own compliments, which will make you realize just how special you are.

Hopefully, my personal story gave you the main do’s and don’ts when manifesting love in general or with a specific person and the right tools to make it happen.

Avatar photo Cam is the editor in chief and an absolute chakra nut. Shes love chakra, mediation and everything that brings joy and balance into her life. Cam is on the way to become a Chakra and Reiki teacher.